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Perfectionism: An Imperfect Musing on the Shame of Not Being a Magician Who Could Do the Impossible

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English
Publishers
ReEnvision Press (30 July 2024)
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0.27 KG
Publication Date
30/07/2024
Pages
50 pages
ISBN-13
9798330317677
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15.24 x 0.64 x 22.86 cm
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9798330317677
Author Name
Loran Joly (Author)
The author, 63 years of age, brings literary, spiritual, mathematical and science views to his writings. At age ten, he found himself forming a writing club in elementary school; at fourteen, he sold five magazine articles for a total of five hundred dollars; and at age eighteen onward he kept a journal. He also played classical violin until age 18, studying at The MacPhail Center for Music, in Minneapolis, and finally with John Lindsey, now in New York, hoping to become a concert violinist - but was not able to go with his last orchestra group on their tour of Russia in 1979, opting instead to attend West Point to pursue pre-med.Also, he has studied considerably in the areas of science and mathematics, including electrical engineering at West Point, and fifteen mathematics courses at Berea College, starting at age 41. There, he also started his amassing a collection of 160,000 personal flashcards, using SuperMemo. Noting, though, he is greatly aware of the typical tendency of we Scientific-Era-Moderners to miss the forest for the trees, and the incredible amount of Data Smog we are subject to, in general. So, he greatly benefited from three years in a remote village of 800 people in northwestern Illinois, starting at the age of 37, without a car the entire time. He has resided in the major metropolises of Detroit, including attending an inner-city Detroit Kindergarten, and San Diego in his twenties, as well as in small villages in Minnesota, Illinois, and Kentucky, including several years in Appalachia, and spent many of his childhood summers on a farm in Michigan.He was raised largely by his mother's side of the family, who were war refugees from Poland. His grandfather was a Mennonite born in Ukraine, with whom he built some woodworking projects. His mother emigrated to the United States by way of a two-week steam ship, to Ellis Island, in 1950, at the age of twelve. after fleeing from the Russians, by horse-drawn wagon, from farm to farm, across Poland, in1940.Currently, he spends a great deal of time looking into the nature of our Western vocabulary, and loves to invent new words he calls neologisms, with the aim of furthering his understanding by refining these tools by which to see people most respectfully. He counts it fortunate that his father taught English.Additionally, he travels extensively throughout Appalachia: Kentucky, West Virginia, Tennessee, North Carolina and Virginia, talking with people and making photographs of them and the surrounding nature, and has published seventeen photography books, after studying with The New York Institute of Photography in his 30’s. He has three photography websites. He is guided by Warren Brunner, whom he first met in 2002, now 96, perhaps the premier Appalachian photographer, who completed thirty photography projects for the Johnson administration in the 1960s; and in 2021-22, he wrote two biographies about Mr. Brunner. An additional area of his interest is with the Native American Indians, having visited two areas of the Navajo in Arizona; the Cherokee Indian areas of Cherokee, North Carolina; and the Cherokees at Vonure, Tennessee, where he wrote his first of three books on religion while camping in the Cherokee National Forest, following further his interests in religion and spiritual growth which started when his parents considered work as missionaries to Canada. He was baptized in a creek in West Virginia at seven; noting too, his parents briefly lived near The Lakota Indians in South Dakota, when first married. Later, at age 21, he spent a week studying at L’Abri Fellowship near Boston, Massachusetts. Since then he also explored other views, including the Amish and Mennonites, the Seventh-Day Adventists, and the Jehovah’s Witnesses. And too, one hundred Saturdays at a meditation center and four visits to a Tibetan monastery, where he found his talks with the Tibetan monks useful.He has Vimeo and YouTube channels.Currently he lives in a village of 15,000, assisting his 86 year young mother. Read more about this authorRead less about this author
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Are we perfectionists?We hear the word so often. Along with terms such as "detail-oriented" and "obsessing".

On the other hand, how many of us have tried not to do our best at something, lest we then self-label ourselves as perfectionists, and put out far less than a desirable performance or achievement?This book attempts to discuss perfectionism as an issue of catastrophizing a less than "perfect" outcome: the author discusses his view that we might be catastrophizing the experience of feeling shame over not being able to do the impossible: the achieving of Perfection. Might we consider that everything is already perfect, at any given time? That we all have in fact "done the best we can", at any point in time, given the resources and constraints upon us? But that tomorrow might bring improvements? This idea comes particularly from Buddhist thought, as well as in AA circles: the author ran across these phrases and tweaked them some, after having spent one hundred sessions in mindfulness meditation, and more recently, having visited a Buddhist monastery four times.

Additionally, the idea is repeated in AA meetings, which he attended in five different locations, albeit not as an "alcoholic". Furthermore, this book discusses a view on why parents, in particular, might inadvertantly "encourage" a child to pursue something "perfectionistically": what is in it, thus, for the parent? Finally, if not pursuing something in "perfectionistic" fashion to avoid shame, what other reason is there to do great work? How about pursuing something in iterative fashion? The author is a West Point graduate who was once pre-med there, and then switched to electrical engineering for his main studies, because he thought it would be "fun", like his time spent doing ham radio as a youth: boy, was he in for a surprise!Later, at age 41, he embarked upon four years of studying fifteen mathematics courses at Berea College.

His religious upbringing in the Plymouth Brethren church may qualify him to have experienced a thing or two about "perfectionism", as well as 150 sessions with two medical doctor psychoanalysts, when he was in his twenties, most of this in San Diego, California, where he attempted to delve into this matter and more. His first analyst was a theatre aficionado who was the exact opposite of himself, and challenged him to see this "issue" for the first time in his life, way back.

It was a long haul to come to new perspectives, a journey of many years. He shares his ideas - his musings - in this book.

The book also offers hope, thus, to anyone in a technical area who struggles with "perfectionism": that one can indeed meld together a detail-oriented life along with being relaxed, easy-go-lucky, humorous, smiling, and so on. An achievable matter.

Some of our most gifted politicians, ministers, reformers, musicians, and other artists, have found it so. It ain't over till it's over, right?.

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