A daughter’s memoir of sacrifice and discovery as her ailing mother’s caretaker is “an inspiring story of love, loss and the ravages of aging” (Kirkus). Like all mothers, mine had a set of maxims that she thought were important to impart to me: if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t satay anything at all (unless it’s irresistibly funny); it’s as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is with a poor man (a nice idea in theory); if you want to commit suicide, wait until tomorrow (advice which has, it turns out, saved my life).

Like many daughters of elderly parents, Trish MacEnulty finds herself in a maze of healthcare negotiations and surprising discoveries when her mother can no longer care for herself. Trish’s mother, who stood by her through her darkest years, was a small-town icon as a composer, pianist, organist, and musical director.

She is suddenly unable to be the accomplished, independent person she once was. Now Trish has two goals: to help her daughter avoid the mistakes that derailed her own life, and to see her mother’s masterpiece, “An American Requiem,” find a new life and a new audience in her mother’s lifetime.

Along the way, Trish rediscovers her own strength, humor, and rebelliousness at the most unlikely moments. .